On my heart lately, I have been dealing with my singleness. I have been learning the fact that Jesus is my husband and how to have a close and intimate relationship with Him. God has showed me that I will raise my boys without a human partner, but not alone. And that there is freedom in being single.
Even though that is all good and peaceful, my body has been saying, “Hey wait!! what about SEX!!! NEVER AGAIN!!! COME ON!!”It is a hard question, so I asked God and I feel that His truth is satisfying. Here is my journey:
On the phone one day, my friend curiously said “ Hey, what’s up with those bugs. You know the ones that are always having sex.” ( which she was talking about the iridescent Japanese’s beetle) “ Why does God allow them to be so free with it and we can’t.” This seemed to aroused my curious too. ( no pun intended )
By all means, I have missed sex the most in my single life. And if you already don’t know me, I am going to try and find away around an obstacle to get what I want. I kept thinking “why bugs, not me.” Then I had a cleaver skeem, when I was reading in proverbs 6:26 (RSV) for a harlot may be hired for a loaf a bread, but an adulteress stalks a man’s very life. My bible footnoted adulteress as a man’s wife. WIFE!!! Whoa Hoo!!! That’s my ticket. I am not anyone’s wife and I know I don’t get paid for sex, because for some reason my checkbook tends to have less money in it after a relationship with a man. Lol
I become more excited when I double checked the 10 commandments. Thou shall not commit adultery. Adultery, guys hear that. I even went to the dictionary to double check the definition: adultery: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse.
For some reason, I have always lumped all sexual acts outside of marriage as adultery. But God’s truth is about ready to change my past thinking. If I am not a harlot and not married that means I found my way around the dreadful sin. Hehe That was when I heard the gentle voice of God. Ann, there is a category for you too.
Ugh!! Ok, I listened. It’s called fornication. (voluntary sexual intercourse outside marriage.) It did look very promising when I started my search into the bible, the NIV and a various amount of other versions only had the word fornication in them 2-3 times. And the scriptures were talking about having idols. I couldn’t see what God was trying to say: What is it God you want me to hear?
Then I started into the King James Version, the grand dad of them all. There was 25 verses with the word in it. Two of the verses stuck out:
1 Corinthians 6:13 (King James Version)
Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.
1 Corinthians 6:18 (King James Version)
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
I don’t know about you, I can work my though the doeth, committeth, and sinneth, but I seem to need to search further to have something pop out at me. I started deeper into the this two scriptures and found this in the version of the Message bible. I would never start any search with this bible, but this time I don’t think I could say it any better.
1 Corinthians 6: 9-20 (Message bible)
9-11 Don't you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don't care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don't qualify as citizens in God's kingdom. A number of you know from experience what I'm talking about, for not so long ago you were on that list. Since then, you've been cleaned up and given a fresh start by Jesus, our Master, our Messiah, and by our God present in us, the Spirit.
12 Just because something is technically legal doesn't mean that it's spiritually appropriate. If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I'd be a slave to my whims.
13 You know the old saying, "First you eat to live, and then you live to eat"? Well, it may be true that the body is only a temporary thing, but that's no excuse for stuffing your body with food, or indulging it with sex. Since the Master honors you with a body, honor him with your body!
14-15 God honored the Master's body by raising it from the grave. He'll treat yours with the same resurrection power. Until that time, remember that your bodies are created with the same dignity as the Master's body. You wouldn't take the Master's body off to a whorehouse, would you? I should hope not.
16-20 There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.
I know that I can not say much more after that. But …He died for “ ME, not bugs.”
1 Corinthians 7:2 (KJV) Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
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